March 1, 2020

Confidence

Confidence
On the turn of small hockey players, it would be possible to cut the nervousness. The match they clearly should have won is not unfolding as expected. Jirka goes to the turnstile and in her head she has a voice sounding all over her head: “I'm a jerk, I'm a jerk, how could I not hit it!” The coach preferred not to even look at him. “What were you doing there, you clocker!” Luke, sitting next to him, barks at him. “You have something to say, you fool! How did you pass it to me! It was all your fault!” The boys get into each other. He rips them up to the coach: “Stop immediately!” But the next alternation is even worse. The team did not and did not shake off the “blanket” from each other. The team's performance falls after a downward spiral.

Such stories take place today and daily in many stadiums in children's or adult collectives, in offices and boardrooms of companies, in apartment blocks or in cars on the road. One of the causes of conflict and direct or passive aggression is self-doubt — the fear that I am not good enough and will be rejected by others. Hence the belief that I am the little one who is being hurt by “evil surroundings.”

In this video/podcast, we address the topic of self-confidence precisely because a little more confident generation can give rise to a society that can do more, because it will be bolder and because people can do it together. They will not waste energy on conjectures, conflicts and fears, but will devote it to discovery and co-creation.

For us, self-confidence means how clear I am about who I am, what fulfills me in life, awareness of my abilities and acceptance of myself. Also, for simplification, we mean confidence in ourselves and in our abilities, which we can use to the fullest and at the right moment. The confidence with which I play or perform in front of people regardless of the pressure or the current conditions.

But how to increase low self-esteem? A simple first step is to change your reaction to mistakes. What happens to me when I make a mistake? Do I hear the voice of the critic? (“You're a jerk!”) Or do I mask it and pretend in front of my surroundings and in front of myself that nothing happened? It's about changing your beliefs: consciously accepting the fact that I made a mistake and accepting that I'm OK anyway. Is it hard?

These 3 techniques will help you in this, you just need to start doing them regularly:

  1. Kick Up Your Day Strengthening sentence. For example, “I am who I am for a certain reason!” or “Today will be victorious!”. With the same sentences, fall asleep.
  2. Writing down achievements for the last time (e.g. winning matches, successful training sessions,...). The important thing is to remember how you felt at that moment (pride, enthusiasm, joy), which is guaranteed to help you instantly get a sense of confidence kick in.
  3. When you make a mistake, imagine in the evening and experience how you do it right, this technique is called visualizing. The goal is to focus on the desired state, not to cycle over the error. You're regaining lost power and programming your head on how to do it right the next time.

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Try some of these tips and see what will work for you. We would love for you to share with us what worked and write to us Also, what didn't work for you.

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